"But the difference is I want to find someone of the same faith, so I have a much smaller choice of men." It's not just religion that Samina has to contend with."A lot of Asian men want you to move into their parental home, some because they love living at home and being looked after, some because in Asian culture it's the son's duty to look after ageing parents." A 33-year-old government analyst next to me sighed and put up her hand, swiftly followed by other women in the room.She later explained: "It's not something I want to do, but if I want to get married it looks like I have to consider it." But while compromise is the option for some, other cultural shifts are emerging.Despite the many challenges, including shade-ism, that British Asian women face, many find suitable partners and enjoy happy marriages.
Brown Bridgets, however, have more to moan about, working around religious and cultural limits leaves them with a small pond to fish in when it comes to finding their Mr Right.
For Asian men the option to "marry out" is made easier by the fact that it is culturally, and in some cases religiously, less frowned upon to choose a partner outside of their faith than it is for Asian women.
Other men choose to marry a partner from their parents country of origin.
However, a parent's idea of a suitable boy or girl can of course be very different to what their offspring has in mind.
For young British Asian Maha Khan, setting up an Asian speed dating company was an obvious move.